Online Relationships

I blog. I know, you're shocked, right? I am actually finding myself blogging more and more every day. I am reading more, and commenting more. I mean, isn't that what it's all about? We write a post, hoping for comments. Hoping that someone has been through what we have written about, and that they can offer advice, or simply let us know that we're not alone.

When I started blogging, I had no idea that there was this whole blogging community that I was becoming a part of. If someone had told me three years ago that I would become best friends with women I had never met, I would have told them they were crazy. I never believed in bbw chat rooms, or finding love that way. Now I know it's true, that you can find love, or friends, anywhere, even online. Like I said, some of my best friends are women I have never met. Without blogging, I never would have met my Canadian friends, or my friends who live overseas. The computer brings us all closer together.

I hope to someday meet all my blog buddies in real life. I refer to these women by name when talking to my husband, and I no longer refer to them as blog friends.

They are just my friends.

Taking A Personal Day

The kids have been out of school for a little more than a week. I don't enforce bedtimes during the summer, so they have been staying up late. Brandi has been staying up until midnight or later, and then sleeping until noon. Kasi and Ryan go to bed before her, which I find pretty amusing. I think it's because they like to get up earlier than me in the mornings, because that is the only time they get to use the computer. Once I get up I kick them off. It's not like I do it so I can check out free interracial chat rooms. I kick them off so I can get my work done. I am going to start scheduling myself a day off each week, because I am seriously getting burned out. There are days I don't feel like blogging at all. I don't want to get to the point where blogging becomes a chore, because I enjoy it too much. I like keeping family and friends informed about our day to day happenings.

Maybe I'll schedule my first day off for tomorrow. Oh, wait, that won't work. I have too much lined up for tomorrow.

Maybe Sunday will work better.

Or Monday.

Dating Then And Now

Junior and I have been doing great in therapy. We have started going every other week instead of every week, and it seems to be working well. I really like our therapist. She is young, and she makes Junior look at things from a different perspective. She asked us how we met recently, and it was fun to share the story with someone who had never heard it before.

It got me wondering if we would have met on our own. People believe in fate, and maybe Junior and I were fated to be together. If Joy hadn't introduced us, maybe we would have met another way. Online dating services weren't popular back then, and neither were chat rooms. It's not like these days where you can hop online and join free jewish chat rooms to find your soul mate. Fifteen years ago, it was eight hundred numbers. No, I never called one. I'm just saying that times were so different, even though it was not that long ago.

I am just so glad I have Junior, and that we are happy. I hope I never have to date again. It's too hard. Plus, I would have to stop telling the story of how we met, and I like that story.

My First Friend

When I moved down south fifteen years ago, I didn't know anyone. I had just gotten out of a long relationship, and I was pretty depressed. For a few months, I did nothing but hang out at my mom's house. I slept in bed with my sister, and had nothing to do all day but think about my future. I was twenty two years old, and had no idea what I wanted to do with my life.

I went to work at a fast food restaurant, and met some nice people. One girl in particular became my best friend. We did everything together, and I was able to move on from my depression. She was the one who eventually set me up with Junior. Before then, I was thinking of checking out christian chat rooms. I wasn't into the bar scene, and I wanted to met a nice guy. I knew chat rooms are free, and you can find people who share your interests. I grew up in a Baptist Church, and wanted to meet someone who did, too. That's not the way things worked out, though.

I married a man who didn't believe in church, but maybe that was what God intended for me. In the fourteen years I have been married, I have gotten him to go to church sporadically. We are talking about joining a church now. I hope this time it sticks.

Looking For Your Soul Mate

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Chatting Online

I have written in the past about chat rooms, and how they can help you connect with people who share your interests. But what happens when you are not sure what, or who, you are looking for? This is where chat rooms for interracial dating come in handy. You can find a variety of people, and chat about all kinds of different things. Why limit yourself?

Walk Away

I was talking with my friend the other day, and we were discussing the problems she is having with her boyfriend. She thinks that he is cheating on her. It bothers me that she still wants to be with him, even if she finds out that it's true. I have no patience for people like that. How can you want to be with someone who wants to be with someone else? And what kind of a man would cheat instead of just breaking up with the current girlfriend first? I mean, what do you say to people who ask how you met? Do you fess up to cheating? Probably not.

I know sometimes it is hard to meet someone, but that doesn't mean you should stay with someone who treats you like that. Cheating just shows a lack of respect, if you ask me. There are so many ways to meet people these days, especially on the internet. There are all those dating sites that claim to match you with the perfect person, but how can you find the perfect person if you've never spoken with them? Chat rooms would offer you the chance to talk with people who share your interests, and they are free. You can find chat rooms for every walk of life, from handicap chat rooms to single parenting ones. You can even video chat with your web cam, and see who you're talking to. And with so many ways of meeting people, there is no reason to stay with someone who cheats. I am a true believer that if someone cheats once, they will do it again, especially if the person they cheated on forgives them.

My advice to my friend was to move on. I hope she listens to me. I hate to see her hurting so much.

Punk Love

Are you wanting to do a little punk dating? If so, check out punkmatch.com. They offer free audio/video chat rooms, forums, instant messaging, and video profiles. It is also free to join, so if you are looking for someone interested in punk rock to share your life, or afternoon with, what have you got to lose by checking them out? Absolutely nothing, and you might just find the person who is meant for you.

Singles

Being a single parent is not easy. I have a friend who is raising a daughter all by herself. Luckily she has the support of her mother and grandmother, and her child's father does what he can. But at the end of the day, it is just the two of them, and it can get lonely. Sometimes you just need to have adult conversation, and that is hard to do when the only person in the house is just learning to talk.

These days you can get online and find places where single parents chat. You can find the support you need, and the conversations you are craving. Signing up is free, and you can even use your web cams. You don't have to be looking for a relationship, either. You can just make friends, and talk to other single parents who are dealing with the same struggles you are.

Now, that's not saying that you can't find someone to have a meaningful relationship with. I know my friend isn't looking for that right now. She just wants to talk to someone who understands what she is going through. She knows she can talk to me, but having never been a single parent, I do not really understand how hard things can be on her. I do, however, always offer to do whatever i can to help her out. I mean, isn't that what friends are for?

Tattoo Chat

I have talked about chat rooms in the past. I think they could be a great way for you to meet people who share the same interests as you do.

Well, I have a new fascination. It's tattoos. Junior has one on his arm. It's my name with two roses underneath. He was pretty sure of himself when we started dating, because he got it about two weeks after we met. I am too chicken to get my own, because I do not like pain, and I know it hurts really bad getting one. Yes, I am a baby, and I'm okay with that. But, that doesn't mean that I can't admire other people's tattoos.

Now, don't get me wrong, some people go way overboard. I think the people who tattoo their entire bodies look a little crazy, but to each his own. I love checking out the tattoos of people in the stores. Some are really beautiful.

There is a tattoo chat room where you can sign up for free, and talk to people who also love tattoos. The cool thing is that you can even get on your computer's video camera and see the people you are chatting with. So not only can you talk about your tattoos, you can show them off, too.

Making Friends

I have a hard time making friends. I have been told more than once that I come off as snobbish. I can see that. Not that I agree that I am a snob, but that I might come off that way.

You see, I am very shy. Almost painfully shy. I have a hard time talking to new people, because I am afraid that I will say the wrong thing, or make myself look like an idiot. So I don't talk at all. I do not in any way think I am better than other people. In fact, I think the opposite might be true. In a way I probably think other people are better than me.

Wow. Did any of that make sense?

I always worry that people will think I am stupid, or that what I have to say isn't important. I may not be educated as well as some people, and I may not be up to date on everything political going on in this country, so I tend to keep to myself. Except online. Online I can be myself. I can ramble on about who I am and what I think, and most people are super supportive.

I have thought about going into a free local chat room to maybe find some people in my area who have the same interests as me. No, I am not looking for a boyfriend. I think Junior might have a problem with that. I'm just looking for a friend. Maybe another mother with kids my kids ages. Someone to hang out with while the kids play together. The main thing is that if we chat online first, I can think about what I want to say before typing it. I am much more comfortable with that.

Is It Love?

I used to be a pretty good matchmaker. When I was in high school, I got a few couples together. It was always much easier for me to set other people up than it was for me to get myself a date. In fact, I never had a boyfriend in school. It wasn't until the Christmas after graduating that I started dating my first boyfriend. We were together for over three years, and I learned a lot from him.

The bad part was that I went right back to being unable to find a date. I know you might find that hard to believe, seeing as how I am so funny and beautiful. The thing was, right after the break up, I moved down south and didn't know anyone. I wasn't into the bar scene, and I didn't start working right away. I was going to look into things like Catholic Chat rooms, but I didn't know much about the computer back then. It was after I started working that I was set up with my husband. A girl I worked with knew him, and thought we would hit it off.

And we did. But, if you are a regular reader, you know this, because I have shared this story before. Some days I can't help but wonder about what my girls will be like when they start dating. Will they be confident and secure in their own skin, or will they have the same insecurities I had? I try very hard not to say things about Kasi's weight, because I know how it feels to constantly be told that I need to lose weight. I know how it made me feel, and I do not want my kids to feel that way. Besides, Kasi doesn't need to lose weight. I just hope she never ends up needing to. With Junior and I being overweight, I worry that the kids will be one day too. I guess I need to start now to make sure that never happens.

Meeting People

I never dated in high school. I had a lot of guy friends, but nothing serious. It was hard enough working full time, going to school, and finding time to hang out with friends. Now, don't get me wrong. I would have loved to have had a boyfriend, but it just wasn't meant to be for me. I didn't have my first serious relationship until I was almost nineteen, and that lasted for over three years.

It was after that relationship ended that I met my husband. I moved from New York to South Carolina. I started working at a fast food place, and met a wonderful woman who set me up on a blind date with Junior. As most of you know, I am extremely shy, and it wasn't easy for me to meet guys on my own. In fact, several people tried to set me up, but I was always too shy to actually act on it. I don't know what made me accept a date with Junior, but I am glad I did.

I hope I am never in the situation where I will have to start dating again. It is easier these days, because there are so many options online. You can find chat rooms specific to who you are, and meet people who have the same interests as you. I found a Senior Chat room where older people can connect with people their own age. Maybe that will be me one day.

Meeting People

I never understood how people claim to have found their soul mate online. I always wondered how you could think you know someone so well, that you have never met. I mean, do you really get to know the whole person, or just the person they want you to see? I had my doubts about the whole thing. Then I started a blog.

My opinion on online friendships changed immediately. I was not looking to meet anyone at first. I was content just to write my little posts daily so that my friends and family could keep up with me and the kids. At this point I didn't even know what a blog was. My SIL had just started one, so I thought I would give it a go. I was surprised the first time someone left me a comment. Then I did a meme, and my whole online experience changed. People were nice. And supportive. I made friends with people I have never met. I was introduced to instant messaging and chat rooms. I was so computer illiterate before. Now I can keep up with the best of them.

There are so many niches online, and finding the one, or couple, that you fit into isn't hard. There are chat rooms for all walks of life. You can find rooms based on your lifestyle, or rooms based on religion. If you are a Latter Day Saint, you can even find LDS chat rooms. It's amazing when you connect with people who share your interests, and understand the things you are going through.

I have been lucky enough to meet one of my blogging friends in real life, and I now understand how people connect online. I will admit, I was a little nervous the first time we got together. What if they didn't like me? What if it was awkward and we didn't really have anything in common? But, I shouldn't have wasted my energy worrying. From the first hug, it was like we had been friends for years. We have gotten together a few times since, and always end up laughing! They are great people, and I am blessed to have them in my life.

So tell me. Have you met anyone in real life that you first met online?

Get Your Punk On

We all have our stories about how we met our significant others. I will not bore you again with my story. I have told it plenty of times before. Today I am interested in your story. How did you and your boyfriend or husband meet? Was it a chance meeting? Were you set up on a blind date? Did you meet online?

Meeting people online had never been easier. You can join a dating site, which I did a few days ago. I only did it to check out the process. Junior helped me fill out the questionnaires. I am not sure if I am a true believer in these sites, but it does not hurt to try new things. I think the most difficult thing is finding someone who shares your interests. This is where chat rooms come into the picture. You can find a chat room dedicated to almost anything. There are religious chat rooms, chat rooms for animal lovers or tattoo lovers, and even Punk Chat Rooms, where you can meet someone who shares your interest in all things punk related. This punk chat room is free to join, and sign up is easy. You really have nothing to lose checking it out.

Tattoo Me?

Do you have any tattoos? Junior does. He has my name, and two roses on his right upper arm. I don't have any, because it looks too painful. And it's permanent. But I do know there are many people who love tattoos. They love getting them, and they love people who have them. There are even Tattoo Chat Rooms you can go to if you want to meet other people who feel this way. I love looking in magazines about tattoos. Some of them are over the top, but some are beautiful works of art. I really like the tasteful tributes to loved ones, especially when they are done by a real artist. If I ever got up the nerve to get a tattoo, I would have to research the process, and find the most talented tattoo artist around. I would probably get something on my ankle, like a little rose or heart. I bet you guys thought I was going to say I would get an elephant!

So if you have a tattoo, let me know. Post a picture of it so we can all see. I am interested in knowing a little more about who you are, or who you were when you got "inked".

Make New Friends

I have recently discovered instant messaging. I like that I can talk to people from all over the country. Heck, I could talk to someone from halfway around the world if I wanted too. I have always been curious about the lure of chat rooms, but have never felt comfortable actually checking one out. They are usually places where single people are looking to hook up, and that doesn't interest me in the least. I am very happily married.

Now that I have found out that there is a Married Chat Room I am excited to give it a try. These aren't people trying to hook up, like most of the singles chat rooms are. This is a place where you can connect with other married people, who are just looking to discuss life as a husband or wife. I think that takes some of the pressure off. You don't have to try and impress some strangers. You can be yourself. It might even be fun to see if there are people from my town on there. Everyone keeps telling me I need more friends. And truth be told, I already met an amazing family online who have become awesome "real life" friends, so I know it's possible to connect with awesome people this way.

Senior Chatting

You have all heard over and over again how I met my husband. Now I want to hear your stories. Were you high school sweethearts? Did you meet in college? Was it a blind date like me? I love hearing the stories about how people met their spouses.

It's easy when you are young, and there are so many opportunities. School and work offer you the chance to meet many different people. But what happens when you are married for a while, and you lose your spouse, either by death or divorce? How do you go about finding someone to spend time with? It can be scary, because you have been out of practice, so to speak, for so long. There are programs available online, like Senior Chat rooms, that can help you to meet people who are around your age and share your interests. It takes a little bit of the pressure off, because you aren't on a face to face date, and you can decide before giving any information about yourself whether or not you want to get to know a person better. You still have to be very careful, but this is a good way to get your feet wet.

It beats moving to Florida!

Big Ideas

I know, you all are probably tired of hearing about chat rooms. But, I believe that everyone has a soul mate somewhere, and for some people, this may be the way they connect with theirs. As most of you know, I was set up on a blind date with my husband, so I know how hard it is to meet someone on your own. I have always been heavy, and had no idea there were BBW Chat rooms just for bigger people. Go figure.

Asian Chat City

I have been writing a lot lately about chat rooms. Not because I go into them, but because there is such a variety out there. From bikers and vampires, to Latina and Asian Chat rooms, if you are looking for a certain type of person, I'm pretty sure you can find a chat room dedicated just to them.